Or rather, I had one because we all have one ; I just had no idea what it was. So, making big decisions—about whether to stay or leave medical school or keep or shut down my unethical business—were tortuous. I had nothing solid to gauge anything against. I knew I must have one, yet I struggled to find it.
This was frustrating, annoying, and often bewildering. I had to give it all up to find it. I gave up a medical career which offered instant kudos, social standing, and family respect.
The Journeys You Take | The Choices You Make. Check out what's NEWS with Loving with Purpose Book Release: The Mindful, Intentional YOU. Many people believe their purpose in life is to find happiness. It is a tiny blip in your entire journey because just around the corner something The choices you make compound over time so you will either experience pain or pleasure. People are not loving and loyal all the time,” explains David Richo.
I gave up being a multi-millionaire albeit on paper —and the trappings of both fortune and entrepreneurial fame—when I exited the successful agency I had co-founded. I gave up being respected by my atheist friends and father when I became totally convinced of our oneness and began to live my life from that realization.
Once I had given it all up, I was ready to grok my purpose. Now, whenever my heart breaks with the suffering of those around me, my purpose shoots forth like a bolt of lightning. I know in these moments my place in this universe and what I was born to do. Every day I learn how to express it in new and ever-more relevant ways.
This empowering narrative allows me to metabolize problems consistently into opportunities and so unfold more of my life purpose. If all our old patterns are enshrined in stories that limit us, hooking us into blame, shame, and complain, our life purpose is a new story that opens up a world of possibility to us.
The more of the old story we give up, the more of the new story we reveal. We have no idea how the story will play out, just that we are enacting it in the moment in constant, biodynamic interplay. By getting into the conversation that is purpose, we start to weave a tale that makes sense of the things that have happened to us; and how they can be meaningful for the problems we and usually other people too are having today. Here are two examples of people finding purpose in big problems.
I have met both personally:. A brain tumor and its devastating physical impact… SWITCH ON …became the stimulus to give up a successful business and commit to being a wisdom teacher bringing more love and truth into the world which then led to writing a book and more. A terrorist bomb and the loss of both legs… SWITCH ON …became the stimulus to leave a job in marketing and be a proponent of peace in the world which then led to the start of a social enterprise focused on peace-building.
But it does mean that it is always your choice how to make sense out of all your experiences, both painful and pleasant, so you can focus your attention meaningfully on the here and now. Only you can weave the story in which you are playing the lead role. In many myths and movies, the hero or heroine embarks on a journey to find a special object, such as the Golden Fleece or Holy Grail.
It symbolizes the search for your life purpose. On the way, dragons and monsters must be overcome—symbols of our patterns, representations of our dark side. Every problem we face is a call to adventure. Each problem we switch on to reveals another facet of our life purpose. As we chomp down on problems, metabolizing them within, we come back with many boons.
It is up to us to join all the seemingly random dots in an empowering, nourishing, and energizing way that galvanizes us into action and adventure. From a haze of past experiences a powerful narrative will emerge. We thrive in the world to the extent that we can metabolize the things that happen to us into fresh threads for our emerging story.
The story is alive because you are alive. Treat it as a done deal and it quickly ossifies. While the gist of your story will stay consistent, the details will unfold in surprising ways, as you co-create your life with the Big U. This is like Picasso spending decades exploring, in painting after painting, what it means to be a Modernist or Cubist.
The more problems you metabolize, the more inspired your new story becomes. The world is always presenting us with problems, inviting us to switch on and let go of the assumptions that underpin the old world order.
Perhaps the most famous story of this surrender is J. He has to relinquish the controlling nature of the Tiny Me to defeat evil and allow the world to be restored to a state of thriving. Our life purpose is always as much about the world—the people we love and the communities we live in—as it is about us. It is always looking to help or heal others. However, this is not only about others; it is also about finding our sweet spot, our special sauce, where we blossom.
If we are on purpose, then both we and the people around us start to thrive. Rather beautifully, nature has conspired to make service as enjoyable and beneficial to the giver as it is to the receiver. When we contribute, oxytocin is released, which deepens our relationships and inhibits stress.
Giving can stimulate our immune system and give us the kind of dopamine-fuelled buzz we get from eating chocolate. Our happiness is massively dependent on how we connect with, and contribute, to others. In a survey of , adults across nations, people who gave to others were the happiest. That was true whether they lived in rich countries or impoverished ones. When we care, we get a boost to our happiness levels equivalent to someone doubling our income overnight. Being of service to others can even extend life expectancy and boost health! Caring for others can be more important than having self-esteem when it comes to our own success.
Being self-centered also costs us a lot of energy, as we have to keep fighting our natural desire to contribute, which kicks us out of flow. However, we must find a balance between giving to others and nourishing ourselves. Purpose needs to be grounded in our wellbeing as well as that of others. We have to keep rooted and resourced. The Connector wants to give but if we become sick, we are no use to anyone. Drop it and come back to your life purpose. The last thing you want to do is be so committed to others that you neglect your own health and happiness, and that of your loved ones.
The world wants us vibrant and vital. Giving must flow from the power and energy of the Great We, as opposed to the limited Tiny Me, which soon runs out of puff. Compassion, service, and generosity are only authentically of service to the world when they come from the heart and not the head. The Tiny Me, driven by the Protector, will always try and hijack our good works to make up for what it thinks it lacks. Only the Connector can give freely without needing something back, because it already has everything it needs within. Be of service because it comes gushing out of you, because it is inevitable.
Do it because it is who you truly are. Then it will be serving you as much as others, even if it is not done with that intent. In order to feed our internal flames, we must wake up and make each of our choices conscious. A conscious choice reflects our highest commitments and is in direct alignment with our vision for our lives. When we make the conscious choices, we take into consideration the effect that our actions will have on our lives as a whole. We take the time to reflect on where our choices will lead us and the impact they will have on our future.
You can select joy over despair. You can select happiness over tears. You can select action over apathy.
You can select growth over stagnation. You can select you. And you can select life. And it's time that people tell you you're not at the mercy of forces greater than yourself. You, indeed, are the greatest force for you.
Now, you can't do it for me , but you can do it for you. So we live in danger of becoming paralyzed by indecision, terrified that every choice might be the wrong choice. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives--choice, not chance, determines your destiny. Then by weighing the arguments pro and con and canceling them out, one against the other, I take the course indicated by what remains. In both cases, a person is responsible for his or her choice and must accept the consequences, whatever they may be.
Being able to choose to act differently, even while feeling the old way, may be the most liberating growth you can accomplish. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a person but one thing: And there were always choices to make. Every day, every hour, offered the opportunity to make a decision, a decision which determined whether you would or would not submit to those powers which threatened to rob you of your very self, your inner freedom; which determined whether or not you would become the plaything of circumstance, renouncing freedom and dignity to become molded into the form of the typical inmate.
Fundamentally, therefore, any person can, even under such circumstances, decide what shall become of him or her--mentally and spiritually. We may retain our human dignity even in a concentration camp. Dostoevski said once, "There is only one thing that I dread: Every act, every word, every decision becomes a part of you. The way that you see and respond to the world in which you live results from the choices you have made.
So, in a sense, not only do your choices make you who you are, they, in effect, make your world because the world that you "see" is the world in which you live. We are given the opportunity to shape and mold our world through the use of our consciousness. Tomorrow is a dream that leads me onward, always just a step ahead of me. It's the joy I've yet to know, the love I've yet to show.
Subscribe New Book Event News! If your purpose is about healing the world, you could help your roommates understand why recycling is important without judgment of course. Articles and book excerpts on the journey of life: We can release judgement and fear-based thinking when we entertain that life is a journey with many pit-stops along the way and we are responsible for finding the beauty at every twist and turn. So the path has to be your own. Life is tar pits and sirens.
For it's the person I've yet to be. It's finally time, time to let go and time to move on.
To take a walk across that stage is to take a walk into what lies ahead. Time spent at Elon the past four years was time well spent, but the future is waiting. Moving on doesn't mean letting go. Memories allow you to hold on to the things you never want to lose. All the yesterdays that were a part of the last four years don't have to be forgotten. Years from now when you need a laugh you'll have your memories to depend on, for they are your treasures.
College is a time to grow up. Eventually, but not easily, you figure out who you are and what's important to you.